You cannot control everything and that is okay

Capture sunshine: You cannot control everything

“Why worry about things you can’t control when you can keep yourself busy controlling the things that depend on you?” ~Unknown

We all want to feel like we’re in control of our life and of those around us. Think of a time when things started to feel out of control in your life.

What action did you take?

Did you do everything that you could to regain back the control, and cling to the bit of authority you had left?

Now don’t take me wrong, we do have the steering wheel of our own life and can change the course of our destinies in a split second but we can control things only up to a limit.

We cannot control time, we cannot control the behaviour or others towards us, we cannot control fate.

Many people become obsessed with what they can’t control and to make things different.

Be true to yourself:

When we focus on what is out of our control, it prevents us from experiencing the beauty in the moment and having peace of mind. The more we try to control things, the less control we will experience on things. But before you let go of an emotional burden from your shoulders with a strong want to control, it is very important to ask yourself a question: “Is this a situation I won’t change or I can’t change?”because those two are completely different terms.Sometimes we feel that things are out of our control but usually they aren’t. People say, “I can’t quit my job, I can’t get into this college” Mostly, it’s not what we can’t but what we won’t.

Look at the silver lining:

When we are not in control, it is human nature to feel disappointed and tend to look on what all are wrong and how terrible the present situation is. This is the time when you actually have to take a long deep breath and look at the silver lining among the darkest of clouds. By doing this, not only you would be able to weigh all the pros and cons more effectively but also would help in clear and proper decision-making by not letting the situation control us.

Focus on what you can control:

Amidst all the chaos, all the confusion there would be a ray of hope, there would be something that you can have a control of, an alternative. Channelize all this energy, the one you spent stressing, decision-making, ranting, finding out a way when there is none, to this alternative because the energy you spend here will result into something productive.

Always remember,

there are some things that you cannot control in life, some circumstances you don’t have the power to mould it in your way and the problem is not the thing that is out of your control. The problem is that you are trying to hold on to it and control it, when you really can’t. Letting go is not a sign of weakness or giving up but rather accepting that there are things that cannot be.

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      Sakshi Raina

      True. So it’s better we try to control the things we can and leave the rest. So much better for our peace of mind.
      Thanks for stopping by xx

  1. Ellis Woolley

    I can relate to a lot of what you’ve said here, especially the ‘i can’t quit my job’ because I went through that last year. It wasn’t that I couldn’t, it’s that I didn’t have the balls to take the leap but I finally pushed myself 🙂 x x
    Ellis // http://www.elliswoolley.co.uk

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  2. captaineverland

    I can’t agree with you more! I’m often upset over the things that I thought I could handle when the truth is, I couldn’t and I should really let it go. Well, there’s always time to be better. Anyway, great post hun! 🙂 x Ain

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  3. A Cup of Wonderland

    Completely agree with this, I think sometimes I get so worked up trying to maintain control on stuff I can’t that I do need to start accepting that I can’t and that it is okay. Thank you x

  4. Sophie

    Thanks for the advice! I sometime forget that there is a silver lining and it sometimes means you find new opportunities!
    Sophie | sophierayne.com xx

  5. justnatonya

    This is incredibly encouraging and inspiring. I liked how you said, it’s not that you can’t but that you won’t. So true. We have the power to do what we want and then sometimes we can’t help how things go but what we can do is accept it. Acceptance makes life easier and stress-free. Thanks for sharing this!

      1. justnatonya

        Sakshi, you made me really happy. I was just struggling with the control factor and then your post popped up in the comment thread and now I feel way more free. Thank you for sharing your wisdom <3

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  6. Gaurav Sharma

    Thanks for putting everything together and specially the timing. This is what I needed the most at this moment.

    I wish you more power and keep inspiring js like this.

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  7. imayogagirl

    Fabulous outlook!!
    I also choose to be positive. 👌🏼
    Try to spread love everyday. ♥️
    We never know the struggle someone may be going through and how much a smile or kindness can help so greatly!!
    xoxo!

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    1. Sakshi Raina

      Thanks Mike for commenting again 😀
      I love how even when you didn’t remember that you already did comment, you said the exact same thing. Genuine <3

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  8. dearmummyblog

    Letting go is the bravest thing anyone can do, it’s such a burden trying to be in control all the time! Freedom is not worrying anymore x #DreamTeam x

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      Sakshi Raina

      Agreed 100%
      It is hard to not be a control freak. I was, I still am sometimes. I find it so hard to let go of things. Reminding myself these things help me be a better person

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  9. Creative Nails

    What a great post. It’s hard to remember sometimes that you can’t control everything! I’m such a worrier too which definitely doesn’t help when things happen! Will definitely try and remember the points you have made next time. Thank you for sharing 🙂

    Amy,
    https://creativenails.uk

  10. Radhika Acharya

    How right You Are. The key is to realise when something cannot be changed and to accept it and build your life around it!!
    Love your posts Sakshi. Very motivating nd positive!! 😊

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