I can’t tell you the number of times people have looked at me pityingly when I say that I enjoy eating out alone and do it quite often.
Why? Don’t you have friends? What about your family? A partner? Can’t you manage to convince at-least one person out of all the people you know to come and have a meal with you? How do you enjoy eating out alone? Isn’t it lonely and boring? – are the sort of responses I’m used to hearing all the time.
and quite honestly, I don’t understand what the fuss is all about? Why is it a bad thing to take yourself out sometimes? To spend some time alone with yourself in silence or just listening to your own thoughts without having to keep up with the other person. Is it a bad thing to enjoy your own company?
I enjoy eating out with my family or hanging out with my friends after work and I also enjoy taking myself out once in a while. I’ll either indulge myself in writing my diary – making notes of all the things that goes in my head. It’s then when I’m at my creative best since I’m paying extra attention to the things around me which makes it perfect for people watching! I can’t stress enough how much I learn from just observing people at a public place. More on that, later. In fact, I wrote this blog post while I was having a cup of coffee alone in a coffee shop! I’m also mindful as I savour each bite, figuring out the ingredients used to prepare the dish.
It’s a time I use to be mindful and understand how I’m feeling.
So I toss my phone in my handbag and resist myself the need to scroll through the news or the Instagram. To bury my nose in my phone and to scroll mindlessly will be a waste of the time I took out to be with myself. It’s only when I keep my phone down is when I can absorb so much of my surroundings and appreciate it a lot more than I could do online.
On a different note, I know there are so many people who still twitch at the idea of going out alone and for all of them, I just wanna say – is to try it out at least once. It’s such a power move! It’s the independence of going wherever and whenever you want. It’s the power of you choosing the time, place and meal you want. It’s the time you give yourself. It’s the self love you practice.
If it still scares you to just have your meal in completive silence, maybe bring along a book that you wanted to read, maybe write down in your journal about the experience you’re having, maybe talk to the waiter and ask how their day is going so far.
or maybe just tweet me @capturesunshyne and we can have a little chat? 😉
Start it slow but start somewhere because this experience is gonna add up to your perspective of looking at things.
So the next time you go to a restaurant for treating yourself, say it with a smile – “Can I have a table for one, please?” and look at them being in awe of the confident person that you are.
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